Oh the shame…

Posted: 01/06/2015 in Uncategorized

Last week I wrote an opinionated status on my Facebook profile. The post was based on the fact that I’d seen an article presenting a very overweight model as an ‘icon’ of sorts, referring to her as a Supermodel.

Now, based on the fact that when size 0 (UK size 4) Supermodels hit magazines and runways, there was an uproar because it wasn’t promoting a healthy body, I cannot see how a 280lb, size 22 (UK size 26) model can be construed as a healthy role model either. Within the comments of the post, I mentioned that I do not feel this is healthy, the woman is morbidly obese and not just on a BMI scale, which anyone who knows anything about weight and health knows is utter bullshit.

Comments started popping up on Facebook about how anyone claiming to care about the health of this woman is full of shit, they just hate fat people. Let me set the record straight, I don’t care about HER personal health.  She chose to become the way she is, or at least be happy with it, that’s up to her and I don’t judge her for that. I care about the women who see this as a role model, just as I cared when the size 0 thing happened. Obesity happens from eating disorders too, it’s not just anorexia and bulimia. Saying I would make such a statement because I hate fat people is like saying I’d only make a post about starving kids because I detest third world countries. I happen to have a lot of friends of varying shapes and sizes, from size 4 to size 24 and I love them all because it’s the person, not the body that counts when it comes to whether I like or hate someone.  This model isn’t selling her personality, she’s selling ‘body positivity’ to the masses who are grateful to have someone say “Hey, it’s ok to be fat”, which it is as long as you’re not putting your health at serious risk. In my opinion.

A few people accused me of fat shaming, promoting violence, of spreading hatred, of being a bully; some of which removed their posts when it was pointed out to them by numerous people that, if they read my post, all I was pointing out is that NEITHER extreme is healthy for a person to be. This is what seems to have been ignored by many.

Now, lets take a moment to think back over the last couple of years.  How many times have you seen a meme do the rounds on social media such as this:


or this:


Not forgetting this little gem:


I could go on for days with examples.  But, is this not size shaming?! Is this not implying that thin girls are somehow less real, just…less? Yet I know I saw, and I’m sure most of you reading this did too, these memes cropping up everywhere on every social media feed with cries of “HELL YES!” from plus sized ladies.

Let’s take a recently very popular song, Meghan Trainor’s All about that bass.

“I’m bringing booty back

Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches that,

No, I’m just playing, I know you think you’re fat,

But I’m here to tell you that, Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top

Yeah, my momma she told me don’t worry about your size

She says, boys they like a little more booty to hold at night

You know I won’t be no stick-figure, silicone Barbie doll”

So, imagine now that some ‘stick thin’ woman wrote a very popular song that appealed to young girls and said “Tell them fat bitches that” but followed it with “I’m just playing”, do you really think there wouldn’t be an uproar? Saying you’re ‘just playing’ makes it ok, as long as you’re belittling skinny women.

Size shaming is wrong in any direction, but tell me the last time you saw a curvy woman say “I’m not sharing this meme that shames thin  women”, or spoke out against thin women being shamed? For the most part, with the exception of a rare few, all I see is plus sized women bashing the shit out of thin women in the name of body positivity…

Remember the quote by Kate Moss “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” and the mayhem and vitriol that followed because of what that implied. Also, let’s not forget how many times we see “ewwww, someone give that girl a burger” etc on images of thin women.

I’m not saying that thin women aren’t guilty of size shaming, I’m saying remember what it felt like as a plus sized woman to have that happen and think twice about doing it yourself just to make you feel better about how you look.

Let me remind you, all women are real. Whether you’re size 0, size 26, transgendered…it doesn’t matter, you are real. I have been everything from a UK size 4 to 14, I’ve never been less real because of that. And I say this as what most would consider to be a curvy woman! Also, let’s not forget that being happy with your body and being a real woman has no bearing on being healthy and that is all that really counts!

UPDATED: 3/6/15

This has just been posted on BBC news, “‘Unhealthily underweight model’ Yves Saint Laurent advert banned”.  Yes, you read that right. A thin model who appears unhealthy featured in an advert and it has been banned by the ASA. So, we are fine if a model appears to be unhealthily overweight, because that’s body positivity, but underweight? Noooo. That’s a bad influence…


  1. BekahCat | Arkhdrauth says:

    This post is perfect, I agree with everything written!

  2. Dan says:

    In the real world, most people take little notice of size, shape, style, looks, etc, as you mentioned, we usually see the person behind it all and its accepted. In the false, exagerated and commercial world of advertsing, they are great at twisting perspectives and make us doubt our own opinions. I totally agree with you that it is shameful to target those that do not fall into the distorted guidelines presented by the media.

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