This morning I received the second friend request from a profile containing nothing but porn links, just this week. For the second time I reported the profile and for the second time Facebook reviewed my report and found it did not violate their community standards.


Right. So pornographic content doesn’t violate the standards. Yet if I post an image I’ve taken that has a hint of a nipple… Banned.

So, I thought I’d let my friends know about this. I posted the following status, with a collage of images. A screenshot taken directly from the profile they said did not violate their standards, a copy of the report which said so and a little meme. It turns out a whole host of my friends have had the exact same experience.


As you can see, that got reported and Facebook removed it.

Then banned me for 30 days…

For the same content. The content they said did NOT violate their terms.


This is not the first time this has happened to me personally. Last year I shared a piece of art that I loved, a painting, which I was led to believe was allowed as it was not a photograph. It was reported, Facebook said it did not violate and so it remained. I posted a screenshot of the report. That got me a 3 day ban.

Now, there is no way to appeal a ban from Facebook anymore, or even contact them in any format that gets a response. Probably because they know full well how sporadically they enforce their own rules and (as both of the above examples prove) how inconsistent they are. So we are left with but no option other than to sit in the naughty corner for a month because they cannot consistently enforce their own rules, then penalise those of us who notice this.

Thus far, my attempts at gaining an answer from them on Twitter have proven unsuccessful (surprised, anyone?!) but I will continue to do so. I have other accounts to keep in touch with my friends, so being put on a ‘time out’ won’t have me crying into my morning cuppa, but I want Facebook to be held accountable for their dire enforcement policies, the laughable report system and how they allow it to be exploited; not to mention their absolute lack of common sense.

If you have yourself had a similar experience, please feel free to share this and highlight the total hypocrisy of the Facebook enforcement system,



When a photoshoot…isn’t

Posted: 28/04/2016 in General, safety

As some of you know, I co-run Safe Model, a resource for people in the industry to come for help and advice. Weekly, we receive reports of unsavoury behaviour in one form or another and we always do our very best to help as much as we can, even if it’s just an ear to listen. Every now and then something that truly horrifies us gets brought to our attention.

This week we had two of those…

The first of these has now been made public and you’ll find it makes for very uncomfortable reading. This was not a photoshoot. This was a guy luring models in with paying ‘work’ offers, whereby he then physically assaults them for his own gratification. And it WAS assault. There is no question of that.

The ‘breath play’ set, for example. This can be alluded to photographically by insinuation, you don’t actually need to stop your model from being able to breathe. That was purely done for his own purposes.

I have seen the checklist this ‘photographer’ provides, with very little explanation of what these very niche terms are, and it includes “sex without protection”. Take a moment to absorb that.

Now, as has been pointed out numerous times over the last few days, once this young lady had endured the first ‘set’, she should have fled. You NEVER stay on a shoot where this happens without your express consent. BUT, that’s often easier said than done. You’re alone with a guy who’s just hurt you. What will happen if you try to leave?! This is something that all the ‘tutters’ fail to understand. What did go wrong, from the outset, was that the model did not do her due diligence. Before agreeing to any shoot of this nature you need to make damned sure you know what you’re getting yourself into. You need to speak, personally, with models who have shot with this person before; you search their name, email address, phone number…everything you have, online and find out all you can. As it turns out, other models have now come forward, saying they had the same experience with the same guy.

However, none of that detracts from the fact that it is the photographer who is to blame. Not the model. She made an error in judgement, he set out to mislead her and then assault her. That is a fact. The saddest fact is that it is necessary to have to do the research, to not be able to trust online references, because we all know that they tell half a story a lot of the time.

Which leads into the second story, also in the public domain… A young model, in financial difficulty is offered a golden opportunity to shoot some fetish/BDSM work. Great. Only during the pre-shoot communications, the photographer starts to change the boundaries. What starts as a staged scenario for the purposes of photos turns into the model being dominated by another party, and then another – the photographer. Reality, not staged. Then the photographer starts demanding the model is now his play thing, a toy. He bombards her with messages, constantly reminding her that he’s going to make her a lot of money, if she just does ‘as she is told’. That he is starting her training before the shoot, making the demands that a Master makes to his submissive. I’ve personally seen many screenshots of this conversation, it makes your skin crawl so far it leaves the building, and I’ve been involved in the scene for 21 years, so I don’t shock easily.

These are NOT photoshoots. They were manipulation, power play and control. Photographs would just have been a bonus. This is unacceptable. Had the models been wanting to fulfill a reality role of that kind, that would be a totally different story, as it would be their informed choice and as grown women they are entitled to that choice. Whilst some would frown upon it, because it crosses the professional boundaries, it would still be consenting adults doing as they wish. I have no issue whatsoever with the BDSM lifestyle, I encourage it, but you have to be honest at all times with your intentions. If it’s a photoshoot, then make it that and leave it at that! The codes of conduct exist for a reason.

In closing, my advice to anyone who wishes to undertake a BDSM/Fetish photoshoot is this:

  1. Research. Always.
  2. Insurance – Ask your photographer whether they have it.
  3. 3rd Party – If your shoot will entail you being restrained in such a way that you will be unable to free yourself or move, a 3rd party is absolutely necessary. What if the photographer dropped dead of a heart attack, or had an accident that rendered them unconscious?
  4. Training/Experience – Ask if they have relevant training, especially in health & safety/first aid. If not, then they will need a rigger. That can be your 3rd party.
  5. Content – Make sure from the outset that you are very clear what will be happening. Do not agree to anything you are unsure of. Remember that anything depicting harm or danger to breasts, anus or genitals is illegal in the UK.
  6. Limits – Set your own limits, do not deviate from them.
  7. Safe words/signals – Ensure that all parties are aware before the shoot begins what your safe words are, or signals if you will be gagged.
  8. Do not advertise yourself as a bondage/fetish model if your experience is being handcuffed, or dangling from some chains. Actual BDSM/fetish shoots are often to a much higher level, especially those that are paying.
  9. Safety – No safe rigger will tie you without first asking a set of basic questions about your health.

Please remember that you are ultimately responsible for your own safety, inexperience and lack of knowledge are the most common ways models find themselves in these situations. Learn to spot the dangers, because they are out there!


I wrote this some time ago and keep forgetting to add it to the blog. So here you have it!

There has been a fair amount of behind the scenes aggravation lately with people asking for references in private groups etc and then that enquiry being forwarded to the person being enquired about. This has led to accusations of libel, slander and defamation (yes, it’s defamation, not deformation!) and it would appear that the majority of people don’t actually know what it all means, so they throw it out there in the hopes of scaring people.

I’m going to clarify a few points here.

There is a difference between the three things. Libel is the written word. Slander is the spoken word (there are rare exceptions where slander can be written) and defamation encapsulates both of these.

Now, to bring about a case for defamation there must be ‘serious harm’. This means that the statement made has caused, or is likely to cause serious harm to your reputation. This usually equates to financial loss caused by people believing the statement. Serious harm cannot be claimed if:

You already have a bad reputation.

Publication is limited (i.e. posted on a private group, or stated in a private message, email etc)

The statement criticises goods or services.


This means that a request for a reference in a private group where a negative reference is left is not going to hold up under UK law.

Now you have the ‘defences’:

Truth being the main one. If what is said about you holds truth, you don’t have a leg to stand on.

Honest opinion. If the person making the statement based on the facts they know to be true and a fair minded person could reasonably believe the statement, it will not be classed as defamation. This can also be classed as “I think that ‘x’ is completely unprofessional, pushes levels and generally makes me uncomfortable’. That is honest opinion, and doesn’t have to be proven as it is how that person feels.

However, if they say ‘He/She IS completely unprofessional and pushes levels’ there needs to be proof were it ever to be raised in legal action as it is made as a statement of fact.

Public interest. If the statement made is believed to be in the public interest, for example, if you were to post something publicly stating that you had a bad experience with ‘x’, that does not qualify as defamation if a reasonable person could believe the statement to be true.

Privilege. Qualified privilege applies where the publisher has a legitimate duty to publish information to a third party and the third party has a legitimate reciprocal interest in receiving it, such as an employment reference or a reply to an inquiry. This includes a request in a group for references about a person whom you intend to work with as well as replies which are negative because the request was made for such information. Obviously, you have to reasonably believe your response to be true.

Also, bear in mind that legal aid is not generally available for such claims so expenses would have to be met by the claimant, so unless you have a watertight case that proves defamation (see ’serious harm’), you’re likely to end up out of pocket. Likewise, don’t leave yourself open to a case unless you know you can prove your statement is held in fact, or else you could find yourself liable for costs and damages.

Educate yourselves folks and save yourselves a lot of hassle throwing around threats that have no weight to them.


Oh the shame…

Posted: 01/06/2015 in Uncategorized

Last week I wrote an opinionated status on my Facebook profile. The post was based on the fact that I’d seen an article presenting a very overweight model as an ‘icon’ of sorts, referring to her as a Supermodel.

Now, based on the fact that when size 0 (UK size 4) Supermodels hit magazines and runways, there was an uproar because it wasn’t promoting a healthy body, I cannot see how a 280lb, size 22 (UK size 26) model can be construed as a healthy role model either. Within the comments of the post, I mentioned that I do not feel this is healthy, the woman is morbidly obese and not just on a BMI scale, which anyone who knows anything about weight and health knows is utter bullshit.

Comments started popping up on Facebook about how anyone claiming to care about the health of this woman is full of shit, they just hate fat people. Let me set the record straight, I don’t care about HER personal health.  She chose to become the way she is, or at least be happy with it, that’s up to her and I don’t judge her for that. I care about the women who see this as a role model, just as I cared when the size 0 thing happened. Obesity happens from eating disorders too, it’s not just anorexia and bulimia. Saying I would make such a statement because I hate fat people is like saying I’d only make a post about starving kids because I detest third world countries. I happen to have a lot of friends of varying shapes and sizes, from size 4 to size 24 and I love them all because it’s the person, not the body that counts when it comes to whether I like or hate someone.  This model isn’t selling her personality, she’s selling ‘body positivity’ to the masses who are grateful to have someone say “Hey, it’s ok to be fat”, which it is as long as you’re not putting your health at serious risk. In my opinion.

A few people accused me of fat shaming, promoting violence, of spreading hatred, of being a bully; some of which removed their posts when it was pointed out to them by numerous people that, if they read my post, all I was pointing out is that NEITHER extreme is healthy for a person to be. This is what seems to have been ignored by many.

Now, lets take a moment to think back over the last couple of years.  How many times have you seen a meme do the rounds on social media such as this:


or this:


Not forgetting this little gem:


I could go on for days with examples.  But, is this not size shaming?! Is this not implying that thin girls are somehow less real, just…less? Yet I know I saw, and I’m sure most of you reading this did too, these memes cropping up everywhere on every social media feed with cries of “HELL YES!” from plus sized ladies.

Let’s take a recently very popular song, Meghan Trainor’s All about that bass.

“I’m bringing booty back

Go ahead and tell them skinny bitches that,

No, I’m just playing, I know you think you’re fat,

But I’m here to tell you that, Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top

Yeah, my momma she told me don’t worry about your size

She says, boys they like a little more booty to hold at night

You know I won’t be no stick-figure, silicone Barbie doll”

So, imagine now that some ‘stick thin’ woman wrote a very popular song that appealed to young girls and said “Tell them fat bitches that” but followed it with “I’m just playing”, do you really think there wouldn’t be an uproar? Saying you’re ‘just playing’ makes it ok, as long as you’re belittling skinny women.

Size shaming is wrong in any direction, but tell me the last time you saw a curvy woman say “I’m not sharing this meme that shames thin  women”, or spoke out against thin women being shamed? For the most part, with the exception of a rare few, all I see is plus sized women bashing the shit out of thin women in the name of body positivity…

Remember the quote by Kate Moss “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” and the mayhem and vitriol that followed because of what that implied. Also, let’s not forget how many times we see “ewwww, someone give that girl a burger” etc on images of thin women.

I’m not saying that thin women aren’t guilty of size shaming, I’m saying remember what it felt like as a plus sized woman to have that happen and think twice about doing it yourself just to make you feel better about how you look.

Let me remind you, all women are real. Whether you’re size 0, size 26, transgendered…it doesn’t matter, you are real. I have been everything from a UK size 4 to 14, I’ve never been less real because of that. And I say this as what most would consider to be a curvy woman! Also, let’s not forget that being happy with your body and being a real woman has no bearing on being healthy and that is all that really counts!

UPDATED: 3/6/15

This has just been posted on BBC news, “‘Unhealthily underweight model’ Yves Saint Laurent advert banned”.  Yes, you read that right. A thin model who appears unhealthy featured in an advert and it has been banned by the ASA. So, we are fine if a model appears to be unhealthily overweight, because that’s body positivity, but underweight? Noooo. That’s a bad influence…


Death by TF

Posted: 09/04/2013 in Uncategorized

In the last two weeks we have seen numerous models state that after their current arranged shoots, they will no longer be able to travel outside of a certain area for shoots.  They can’t afford it.  Why?  Death by TF.

They’re not getting paid for their talents, just as a lot of photographers/designers/MUA’s etc.  Everyone wants something for nothing, they’ve been getting it too.

The circle that used to exist has been broken.  ‘Back in the day’ *cringe*, a model would pay professional photographers to build a portfolio, if she was any good she would then go on to paid work, often where new photographers would pay for an experienced model to build THEIR portfolios, if they were any good they would then go on to be paid by new models… and so the circle completed.  The bad got weeded out, the good went on to make their money.  Collaborations would, of course, occur too but only those which were mutually beneficial.  So what changed?

A few things actually.  Semi-professional equipment became affordable and pirate copies of image editing software became easily obtainable; anyone who took a fancy and had some spare cash became a photographer.  Models were few and far between but every girl whose mates told her she should be a model, suddenly decided she was one; it’s now the ‘fashionable’ thing to do. These people didn’t spend any time at all finding out about the industry they were shoving themselves into, so the new photographers and the new models all worked together on TF to ‘help each other’, thus helping to create the “I don’t pay, I get paid” attitude.  Sadly that only works if you have something to offer that someone wants and is worth paying for.  We can name off the top of our heads 20 models who are good enough to be paid, but generally aren’t being.  We can name a whole lot more that aren’t good enough, they have no clue on how to use their bodies, posing…expressions.  Same deal with photographers. You see painfully bad shots on crumpled white sheets with terrible lighting, and badly posed model, chronically bad editing (as a professional retoucher for the advertising industry, this is a massive irk for Shaun. Everyone with Photoshop thinks they’re a graphic artist or retoucher) and you cringe.  Yet these people want to be paid.  Many times we have seen the amateur model state “I only accept paid shoots.”  Really?!  You’ve been doing this six months, on aforementioned rumpled white sheets and suddenly you’re Mosh?!

So now it has become an industry where (almost) everything gets done by TF, because if everyone wants paying, that’s not happening, so how about no-one gets paid, then somehow it’s ‘fair’.  It’s got as far as people asking for TF shoots, then asking whether you provide a stylist and MUA, because they just expect it all for nothing.  We recently did a special offer price on shoots, immediately we were asked if we would provide MUA’s.  For the stupidly low price we were offering and yet still people expect more, for free.  Magazines want content, it used to be that they paid to get it, now they ask for submissions.  Everyone dives in to get the exposure, the magazines get inundated with content that they can pick and choose from, and still no one gets paid.  This is only acceptable if the magazine itself is free to read, in it’s infancy.  For magazines that charge, it’s really not acceptable that you expect free content to be thrown at you.

We have raised the point before about how people in this industry provide a service, let’s reiterate…  If you are approaching someone else, asking them to work for you then you pay them.  It really is that simple 90% of the time.  A model approaches us with an idea/outfit that they want shooting, they’re asking us to work for them.  We have an idea and see the perfect model, we approach her, we are asking her to work for us, see?  There will always be grey areas, unpaid test shoots were a legitimate thing once upon a time; or for example it’s something you REALLY want to shoot but you have no one in mind; well ok, put it out there and offer it at a reduced price.  This applies to BOTH models and photographers though, people seem to think only photographers can do that.  If you’re an established model with an awesome idea but don’t know who best to shoot it, reduce your rates and let the photographers come to you if they want to be a part of that idea; you choose the best one for the job.  This will only serve to discourage the TF onslaught and perhaps help bring the industry back to what it used to be and weed out those who just want everything for free.

When things go bad

Posted: 08/03/2013 in Uncategorized

*Since importing this from our Posterous blog, which is due to close, a lot of the 27 comments, including further threats to others have not imported*

Picture this.

You are a designer, approached by an event company and asked if you’d partake in a photography event by providing the wardrobe and styling. The models and photographers involved will all pay a small fee, the venue is paid by way of a small donation to their chosen charity. You spend weeks making outfits, at your cost, you attend the 2 day event as a stylist. The event is marketed and promoted using your company name, based on your reputation to gather attendees.


Now imagine you’re told that you can’t have any images from this event unless YOU pay for them. Despite how much it cost you to create this exclusive collection of latex outfits, which you were not reimbursed for because you were doing it as a favour.  The event company instruct the photographers not to send you anything unless you compensate them financially.  You were not paid a penny for this.  Your travel and accomodation was covered, the company appears to  pockets the rest.  How does that work then?!


This was part of the original ‘press release’ for the event (which has since been deleted):

“SHOW ME EVENTS and LADY ALLURA’S LATEX hosted by THE PIT AND PENDULUM NOTTINGHAM have teamed up to create an incredibly unique and exciting experience for models and photographers.
We will have full use of the venue from 09:00 to 15:00, a total of six hours shooting time with a collection of Lady Allura’s incredible outifts including a brand new never seen before collection created specifically for this shoot to be worn by the models in attendance.
LADY ALLURA’S LATEX is the U.K’s premier independent latex designer. She has been featured in a plethora of fashion articles and is the winner of the 2012 LFW awards in London. Her online following dwarfs those of her competitors and she is renowned for the quality of cut of her outfits.

So, Lady Allura was creating a whole new collection specifically for this event?!  And she’s still not allowed images. Wow.

Days before the event, the company removes it’s presence from Facebook, with models reporting they had been deleted from the personal profile of the man who runs the company, he himself changes his name to a series of what appear to be Chinese writing characters, one assumes to prevent being searched for. A videographer who attended was specifically asked not to credit Show Me events on the video, why?!

Here’s what one model had to say:


So now your reputation is being smeared all over the internet, by people who already have a bad reputation. Go figure.

What baffles me the most, is that the photographers who are unwilling to send the designer a handful of low resolution, watermarked images to use on her Facebook etc, which is ALL she has asked for.  She doesn’t want to sell prints, or make money from their direct use.  Their reasoning is because they paid an entry fee.  You paid to shoot those models, in that location, wearing those outfits; you paid for an opportunity you would not have had otherwise.  I defy you, any of you, to hire that many latex outfits from a designer with a 16k following, plus professional hair and make up on all the 12 models for £25!  You’re getting your photography seen by all those people, which a quick check will show that Lady Allura ALWAYS credits and links back wherever possible.

This is akin to me asking one of my designer friends “Oh hey, so will you make me 12 exclusive outfits please, for free.  I’ll pay postage or your petrol costs to deliver them, oh and as you’re here you may as well be my stylist for the day too,  but because I’m doing that you can’t have any pictures”.  Yeah, imagine how THAT would go down…

Some of the photographers are being very decent and going against the instruction they were given and are supplying the designer with images, to those of you doing so, I applaud your morality!  I will also add that NONE of the models who attended were at fault here!  We hope that the remaining photographers will eventually allow Allura to have the images she deserves from this and that the whole thing can be put to rest for all involved.

When I questioned the lead photographer on some discrepencies in his version of events, he resorted to personal insults. Oh and not forgetting the need for a childish little PM:


So in closing, to any designers out there, (their next target has already been warned) unless you fancy working for free designing, making the outfits, taking two days out of your business to help and not being given a penny, let alone images I would avoid these folks like the black death 🙂


We have since received a THREAT because of this very blog! Under a fake profile, obviously.  Sadly because they then de-activated the profile, our reply couldn’t be sent. Bad times.  However, it has been reported to the necessary parties!


**UPDATE 2**

Since the publication of this yesterday, there has been an influx of industry people reporting their experiences with the people involved here; it seems that sometimes it just takes someone to speak out to give others the confidence to.  This has received well over 3000 views and appears to have gone viral!  All we wish to achieve from this is that in future, people are more aware of whom they work with, of the conditions/terms of any collaborative effort so they won’t end up in this situation.  Awareness and knowledge is key to ensuring you don’t have a bad experience! 

Thank you to each and every one of you that has shown support over the threat we received, it has been incredibly heart warming to see this community coming together!

**UPDATE 3**

Yet another, more sinister, threat has been received this morning.  The police are being called in for this one.  It’s a brave man who threatens a woman, whilst hiding behind a fake profile and deactivating it right away so that it cannot be reported or viewed.


Last weekend we had the pleasure of shooting eight glorious ladies for Rubber Monkey Latex,

RM had an idea a while ago to create a series of Care Bear inspired latex outfits, yes Care Bears! She worked long and hard to create them, she did an amazing job, and we had so much fun shooting them! The shoot and the resulting images were silly, cheeky, funny and all in good taste.

So why then has there been a barrage of drama over it?

Take a look for yourselves:


Now you tell us, can you see anything pornographic here?  Can you see anything that makes you want to go out and rape a child?!

No, we can’t either, yet that is what we and RM are being accused of, PROMOTING PAEDOPHILIA!  Yep.

It’s ok, take a moment to get over the surprise, took us a while too.

So with this in mind, let’s get a few things pointed out…

Do any of your children know what the care bears are?  None of ours did.  Why?  Because anyone who remembers the Care Bears is most likely an adult now.  Just like all the women in this image.  There was no attempt to make them look like children, so how is it promoting paedophilia?

By definition, paedophilia is a sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children.  It’s pretty obvious that none of these ladies fit that catagory.

One could argue we are promoting Schediaphilia aka Toonaphilia, or even Zoophilia…take your pick.  So why weren’t we all accused of those things?  Because people are ignorant.

We can’t help but wonder if whilst at a fancy dress party, any of these people would run up to the lady in the sexy Disney outfit and scream “OMG, you’re encouraging paedophiles!!!”  Because, let’s face it, all kids know Disney characters and one look at this outfit, well it’s SEXY!  So by their logic it must also be making people want to go out and find children to abuse, no?


Let’s have another angle of thought:


Sexy schoolgirls…yep, the outfits are everywhere.  Men all over the place get hot under the collar when seeing a gorgeous woman dressed like this.  Strangley though, can’t see anyone running around waving their banners saying how wrong they think it is.  It’s more than ok…right?  Surely, promoting an actual childs’ outfit in a sexual manner is far more likely to bridge the gap than a cartoon character outfit.


People love cosplay, it’s a fact.  Whether that be dressing up like your favourite Anime character, a furry, or a pirate.  What seems to escape some minds is that one form of cosplay is no different in intention than any other.  We have shot many people in cosplay situations, horror film characters, ninjas, zombies, nazis, cartoon characters, clowns and scared little girls in their beds…so why is this one any different.

(Anime/Manga…includes characters who look very much like little girls, yet no one bats an eyelash, go figure)

This is where it gets interesting.  Trolls.

It would seem that there are a few models out there with grudges, bless them.  So all their friends rally round in “support” of their grudge, often blindly, and jump on a bandwagon.  It has come to our attention yet again that there’s a bit of a hate campaign going on directed at a very lovely lady, the same group that created havoc not too long ago directed at this same model, a bunch of vile little people with nothing better to do than to publicly trash someone in every available forum.

Maybe they didn’t get enough love as a kid, or in the vein of this blog maybe they got too much.

So strange that the tirade against RM began concentrated on the image of this one model then isn’t it…

We are sure they are sat there feeling very proud, little chests all puffed out at their ‘achievements’, yes well done you!  You sat at a computer spewing vitriolic shit about someone, with no basis, and when that didn’t work you moved on to everyone else, seeing who would bite.  How crushed you must have felt when they all just laughed at you. 

You see, we pity you.  You have nothing better to do with your life than try to upset women on the internet, in all likelihood women you know you would never have a chance in hell with so you lash out.  There, there, you won’t have to live with mummy forever.  Try having a wash and venturing outside, if you’re brave enough.

We are quite pleased with the results of al the drama and trolling to be fair, both us and RM have noticed a marked increase in new fans on our pages, and the support for the project has been overwhelming, so thank you for helping make that happen!

We are off to edit some more images of beautiful WOMEN in latex care bear outfits 😉

TP out x